Balance

I need to BREATH! Trapped is the first word that comes to mind, frustration another, and the list goes on. Trapped, frustrated, suffocated, angered, inadequate, ______, _______, ________. You fill in the blanks! It’s the end of the summer and everyone has an agenda. This one’s going away to college for the first time and is nervous, that one’s going away to high school and hates all the rules. “We need to go here, we need to go there , we need need need” and… “we need your car” and even better “we need your attention”.  It’s everything and anything. Then there’s the new technology.  “Oh, you need to talk with me? Just send me a text.”  I’ve five million things to do and can’t seem to get anything done. I’ve got so many needy people NEEDING me! Yes, I get it… I’m the MAMA, they’ve got my love. I’m fulfilled and overwhelmed, all at the same time…  but it’s nice when someone makes me a sandwich occasionally. Did I mention that I LOVE GIFTS?

The other day I got a book in the mail, “Pink Hair and Chocolate”, written by Laura Lavigne my mentor and friend. She is an inspiration to me. Out of the blue, she sent it to me. It was such a wonderful random act of kindness and love. How did she know I needed just that?  On the cover is a half eaten chocolate cookie. I want that cookie!! (Kosher of course.)

In this society we are taught that self-centered is selfish. “It’s better to give than to receive”… we’ve all hear that one. “Give and you’ll be a better person.”  I challenge those statements.

There has to be a balance of giving and receiving. As a woman, a wife and a mother, if all I do is give… what am I teaching those around me. If I don’t also take for myself, how will they understand that learning how to receive is as important as learning how to give? Receiving humbles us; it teaches us to be open to others; it teaches us love.  Love to others and love to ourselves. If we love ourselves, we love others.  There has to be a balance.

Today I am going to take better care of myself. Today I am going to let others know when their demands are too much. Today I am going to learn to say no. Easy for me to write, hard for me to initiate. So I think I’ll begin with “baby steps”…I’ll learn some balance, when to say yes and when to say no and maybe I’ll even start a schedule for myself… or maybe not.

Amazing! Already I feel better!

2 thoughts on “Balance

  1. I have been there! I think we all have and you are right about taking the time to take care of ourselves. My 2 biggest problems are, trying to organize myself and not feeling guilty about taking time for me! I think I’ll give you a call 🙂 thank you for your wise words!

  2. Andrea, I’m looking forward to your call. I think we all feel overwhelmed at times. It’s those “little things” we do for ourselves and those “little things” that are done for us that help. Learning how to prioritize and follow through is an important step. Learning how to let go is another.

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