Donâ€™t misunderstand me, Iâ€™m having a great time; going to the beach, eating out, taking the train to various places, drinking Starbucks; spending quality time with my kidsâ€¦ relaxing, breathingâ€¦
â€¦well, not quite. Iâ€™m not relaxing and Iâ€™m not breathing. I had big plansâ€¦and those plans are not fitting into my San Diego schedule. What about my big plans!
â€œLet them go for right now and just enjoy the place you’re in.â€ Thatâ€™s my new mantra. Am I crazy? Am I giving up? No way! Right now I want to be totally present with where I am, and for me, thatâ€™s in San Diego with my family. I am allowing myself (giving myself the permission) to let go of my â€œbig plansâ€. It’s good to learn to be flexible. I realized that not only was I NOT sticking to my big plans, but I was also NOT being present with my family.
We all have had experiences like mine at different times through our lives. The trick is learning how to let go, bend with it and be flexible. When we let go of our expectations and learn how to be present with the moment, life takes on a whole new positive look. Learning to let go and be flexible is the key to happiness. As soon as I let go of my expectations, my â€œbig plansâ€, and allowed myself some flexiblity, I relaxed, took a breath and started enjoying myself.
Ask yourself, “Am I a flexible person or do I always have to feel in control?” If it’s the latter, spend a day letting go and see what happens. You just might like the results.