Unlocking the Key to Happiness

I’ve been away in San Diego for 3 weeks now with the family. Before leaving…I had big plans. No matter what, I’d stick to my schedule. Okay…maybe I’ll rethink that one…

Don’t misunderstand me, I’m having a great time; going to the beach, eating out, taking the train to various places, drinking Starbucks; spending quality time with my kids… relaxing, breathing…

…well, not quite. I’m not relaxing and I’m not breathing. I had big plans…and those plans are not fitting into my San Diego schedule. What about my big plans!

“Let them go for right now and just enjoy the place you’re in.” That’s my new mantra. Am I crazy? Am I giving up? No way! Right now I want to be totally present with where I am, and for me, that’s in San Diego with my family. I am allowing myself (giving myself the permission) to let go of my “big plans”. It’s good to learn to be flexible. I realized that not only was I NOT sticking to my big plans, but I was also NOT being present with my family.

We all have had experiences like mine at different times through our lives. The trick is learning how to let go, bend with it and be flexible. When we let go of our expectations and learn how to be present with the moment, life takes on a whole new positive look. Learning to let go and be flexible is the key to happiness. As soon as I let go of my expectations, my “big plans”, and allowed myself some flexiblity, I relaxed, took a breath and started enjoying myself.

Ask yourself, “Am I a flexible person or do I always have to feel in control?” If it’s the latter, spend a day letting go and see what happens. You just might like the results.


One thought on “Unlocking the Key to Happiness

  1. BatSheva,

    This is a great post. I have had this experience many times. As a parent, I have become much better at letting go of my original plans/ideas and living in the moment. Sometimes, though, I get a little too free; I continue the relaxedness when I should be rolling up my sleeves and getting back to meeting life goals. Still, I think that letting go and being how to be present in the moment has been one of the best things I have learned and done as an adult. I notice that kids help me with this tremendously and so do pets: they seem to live more naturally and fully in the now, so I let myself be drawn out of my default planning and accomplishing mode into my pleasure-in-the-moment mode.

    Thank you for writing and sharing these wonderful posts on your beautiful site!

    Love and admiration,
    Claire

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